Where Love Conflicts

Agreeing to act upon Love is not the hardest thing to do. Harder though, is to know what acting upon love consists in. Love however, often seems to conflict in practice between love for one and love for the other. In some instances, some people love their (embodied) self so much, they dispossess others of that love, and vice versa. Does it really conflict though? Should it really conflict? Could it be that perhaps, the love we imagine to enact isn't really love if it takes part in conflicts? Could it be that the distinction between self and other misleads the understanding of love?